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Why we need to talk about depression | Kevin Breel

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Kevin Breel didn't look like a depressed kid: team captain, at every party, funny and confident. But he tells the story of the night he realized that -- to save his own life -- he needed to say four simple words. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Tammy N (4 days ago)
Thank you Kevin for sharing your story. It takes courage to be vulnerable and truly authentic, and you did this publicly. THANK YOU!! I'm glad you didn't take those pills and you are here to help others and to help de-stigmatize what is so common in our world! To all those suffering with depression my heart goes out to you, I've been there and understand. May you find strength and inner peace...YOU matter!!
J rsls (9 days ago)
Maybe that is why many people pretend that they do not have depression, because everyone runs away from us . And those who run away maybe they get reminded of their own depression and they cant handle it..They rather keep it hidden.. I think he is really in target. we have to love the awful parts of ourselves because no one will and its cool if we are not loved... . we only need to appreciate ourselves and that is the beginning of our freedom.. excellent video
J rsls (9 days ago)
very proud of you..
Weird Gaming (10 days ago)
Try Headspace: meditation and mindfulness Maybe it can help you Have a good day Always smile
Allison Behan (11 days ago)
how could anyone dislike this video..... its because they are too overwelmed and cant see the reality, this stuff is real.
Joao Cavaleiro (11 days ago)
Your so rigth
Mystic Wolf131 (21 days ago)
"It's for attention." "You'll get better." "Life is great!" "Go outside!" "Exercise!" "But you're so happy." "Yeah, right." "Sure, buddy." "Get over it." "Cheer up!" "You'll be fine." "You're fine." These words are the words NOBODY who struggles with depression wants to hear. They came out and told you, because they are trusting you. With a secret that is endangering them, anyone who tells you that they self harm. They could end up in a mental hospital.
So awesome to see how far we have come since 2013! So many people talking about depression :)
Faith Wilton (29 days ago)
No one ever believes me. No one.
Ben Benita (29 days ago)
THIS Guy.....f-ing NAILED IT!!!! Well Done my friend!!!! Pulling for you....don't EVER stop speaking and inspiring....you may not know it, but, 100% chance you're saving lives!!!
Nope FTW (1 month ago)
Having to get up in the morning is the first hurdle, everything else is another one, going to the shower getting out of it, getting dressed, going to school. All of those look like chores at this point, my friends would tell me "it's okay, give your ploblems time, they'll figure themselves out" "you can keep going". But they don't know that every single time I go to the hand rail of the 3rd floor of our school I can only think, "I could just jump and make everything go away, I'm too tired for this crap, I'm gonna fall asleep in class anyway so I might as well sleep forever after breaking my neck because of the fall". But then I remember the person I love and I say "one more day" but that day is no better, and I seemingly get worse, and now I csn barely go to train and can't focus enough to study for more than 2 seconds at a time. I just want to sleep man, just sleep and never wake up, just, I want this, I want me, to end. Maybe then I will finally rest when I sleep.
Tracy Farnoosh (1 month ago)
Wanting to share my experience and journey... this was a phenomenal talk, I am nervous about sharing, and question how to reach people ,who may not want to admit they are suffering, so identifying as someone who struggles with mental health may deter the very people who have need to know .
Ashton Castle (1 month ago)
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Omar Ilyas (1 month ago)
This one is my favorite. I related so much. All of these quotes spoke to me, and made me tear up. Because I look down off the train platform every time I go to college and I hang my head low when I can't just step off. And unlike every other video on this site, this video made me go to my school's counseling center for help. I thank God that suicide isn't my only option.
Dark Danish (1 month ago)
frenetic
Mark Shelly (1 month ago)
This might be the bravest most profound TED talk I have heard. Thank you!
Mohammed Aman (1 month ago)
Depression : is wat u want doesn’t match with wat God wills for u.....be happy with watever God decides for u coz in His remembrance heart will find peace
AlphaJet 101 (1 month ago)
And then we have the emos... The ones who insult the people who have REAL depression. Not some teenager that thinks he/she is bi and LIKES to be depressed and is a pervert with instagram, snapchat, you name it. The one who is a furry and wants to be a fucken wolf. You make the world a sadder place. Stop it. You DON'T have depression. Stop watching Soul Eater, Naruto, or SAO. Because half of thoes anime characters are edgy and have black costumes. Instead of you getting inspiration from animation, get inspiration from your parents. You hate your parents because they don't understand you? Deal with it, break the ice. MAKE them understand the new world. But stop being who you aren't.
Rigor Mortis (1 month ago)
I have depression and I tried telling my friends about it, but they just gave me advice on how to be happy by "seeking the Lord". Recited Bible verses as if it could cure me. I never felt to rejected and humiliated my whole life. I know it was supposed to make me feel better, but I felt so alone. I never told anyone about that side of me to anyone, and they just thought that I was back to my normal happy self, but the truth is I am putting a show everyday 'cause I wanted to feel that I belong and I have friends who understands me. I didn't consult a doctor because I also don't want my parents to know
Anna (1 month ago)
Kevin, you are so amazing! Thank you so so much for your inspirational ted talk! You really inspired me 😊❤️
Gandalf The Black (1 month ago)
I had no idea what depression was till I watched this video.
64 Ant (1 month ago)
I'm so numb now
jonthephilanthropist (1 month ago)
You are 100% correct. Thank you so much. I can hear it in your voice. God bless you.
Kevin (1 month ago)
Jesus Christ Kevin, you've put such good words to depression and are completely right about speaking up about it. Online communities especially can be so negative and frankly cancerous
Kushagra Sharma (1 month ago)
Exactly what I am going through
CM Randall (1 month ago)
I didn't quite understand. I know depression well. It pain, but it's usually caused by something. What was he hurting over?
better than gucci (1 month ago)
hello, i'm 18 and i believe i'm depressed. i started to notice it about 2 years ago. it gets worse. i did not want to accept it. i don't want this at all. i had excuses. "maybe it is because i'm always so sleepy". but it is so much more. everything in my life is so weird. everyone that knows me sees me as the positive and strong girl who's making the good mood and make people laugh. i was strong i think and i was always positive. it changed. i can't exactly explain it though. i can't even talk to someone, they don't know that me. i don't want professional help, it wouldn't help me and my parents would be so worried. people leave me for no reason. they just ignore me. i lost my motivation for school and everything else. i don't get called smart anymore. my life is messed up. people i love, love other people, my parents are slightly disappointed in me and i don't love the one i should've love from the very beginning with, myself. i lost the feeling of excitement for a quite long time already.
Aditya Barhanpurkar (1 month ago)
better than gucci i am facing same situation because i was failed last year by just 2 marks and now my all friends,teachers,parrents,everyone ignores me i also lost my motivation to do any thing my life is messed up by that 2 marks
Bigfoot Where Are You (1 month ago)
Life kills you one day at a time.
c_drom3dar (1 month ago)
When I told someone about my struggle and my depression, they wouldn't want to be friends with me anymore. So I don't tell anybody anymore. That was about 5 years ago. It's sad that you would have to pay someone to talk with you about this. And yes, I am mostly depressed because I have very few friends that don't go out, so I don't go out. And I'm stuck in this fucking room every weekend after work not knowing what to do with myself. I just wanna forget myself sometimes. I wish it would be so easy to get to know someone new...
kath david (1 month ago)
These talks add salt to the wound.
kath david (1 month ago)
Dark night of the soul... go research, it changed me and my view on depression. released me from it.
kath david (1 month ago)
All these ted talks about depression and suicide.... does anyone stop to ask why? this is happening... no, i didn't think so, the system is broken, we are being ruled, controlled dumbed down and manipulated by psychopaths... those in power... that is the problem.
TAILFOX Ruiz (2 months ago)
U need kid cudi... he saved my life
Anisa Ali (2 months ago)
He looks like Jordan Pickford. Anyone else?
Adam Khan (2 months ago)
Helps keep you fight it off
Adam Khan (2 months ago)
The best thing i did is live for other peoples happyness because it gives you positive energy
Ayda kunutku (2 months ago)
This is everything I needed this is everything the world needs and I'm thankful for someone to stand up and say everything, everything we couldn't.
ProudToBe AnAmerican (2 months ago)
Everything he said, I've been saying for my whole life. Unfortunately, people hear, but don't listen. Depression is the last taboo. You will continue to hear people calling the mentally I'll "crazy". Unless you've personally gone through depression, you won't know what it feels like.
Sunayani Mukherjee (2 months ago)
"It's an issue not an identity"
Ahmed Mustafa Omer (2 months ago)
That's really hit me so hard and made me cry 💔
Vidushi Khaitan (2 months ago)
I’ve learned to live with it...I can’t even describe it this video does it for me
Sandipan Mukherjee (2 months ago)
need help.. I need to talk..
rens cappon (2 months ago)
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RJ VirginSlayer (2 months ago)
What are you fucking gay?
camzjergui (2 months ago)
I don't think he is hun. but do you have a problem with gay people? or do you first wanna talk about the fact that you are also depressed just like him and everybody else?
Cybno (2 months ago)
That was beautiful. Thank you.
Blue Ant (2 months ago)
It takes a real courage to step up and talk about this. His speach is awesome.
Striker 540 (2 months ago)
If anyone watches this, reads this comment and realizes they need help, I'm willing to talk. I'm going through it, too.
Riptide Slash (2 months ago)
Hey. If you are reading this... And you feel, just, so empty...message me. I'll listen to you. I won't be able to relate, probably never will. But I'll listen. I'll listen to you and you can just rant, talk, or ask random questions. Whatever you want.
John Balcerowski (2 months ago)
I wanna ask what you do if the meds make you feel like crap? Honestly? Btw..I really enjoyed watching this! I can relate!
Angel Gomez (2 months ago)
How do I talk about being depressed when I feel ashamed. I constantly think of suicide but I don’t wanna hurt people around me i want it to be over
Botsu1 X (2 months ago)
Dont feel ashamed. It will be ok. I have had similar moments in my life as well when that little voice creeps in and whispers in your ear to simply end it for good. But dont listen to it. Ignore the voice and move on. I live by a small phrase, "live one day at a time" just keep trying, do what you need and enjoy afterwards. If it ends up horrably, just remember tomorrow is a new day. I'm here if you wish to talk, my door is always open
Karen Rodriguez (2 months ago)
Damn this hits me in the soul
Kim Hanbin (2 months ago)
I can’t just go to my parents and tell them. What am I supposed to tell? Like "hey mum I’ve been having suicidal thoughts again" ?I can’t do that to them I don’t want to see them hurting again I can’t do that
ragnarok a (2 months ago)
try living overseas without no family members, husband prohibits you from telling your problems to your family members back home, telling his family members will backfire on you, you're only a housewife who works from home..unabling you to have friends. you are the sole provider but he is the one controlling. you see others online, loving couples, going to family vacations.. while u stucked at home, provided for yr family while u have nothing. Yes... suicide thoughts everyday.
Alicia McGrath (2 months ago)
What a brave, honest and incredibly WISE young man. This is the most solid speech on depression I have ever heard. I have been suffering from severe depression my whole adult life and to hear this young man speak so eloquently is a profound gift to all of us who suffer every day.
Amber Lasater (2 months ago)
Great video
Brian Clark (2 months ago)
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Gaile Kyla Luar (2 months ago)
I salute this man for being brave and for telling the message to all of us who struggles in our life with depression
RonnyDonny13 (2 months ago)
I'm bipolar but am mainly depressed. I don't go into full manic episodes. I go into hypomanic or mixed state episodes. Something triggered me a few months ago and I uncontrollably cried for 2 days. There was even a 30 minute period during those two days where I suddenly went hyper and had motor mouth syndrome. I was talking so fast ordering subway the girl couldn't understand me. It felt great not to be crying. I sat down to eat and starts crying again. A couple days later I was hyper again on 1 hours sleep in the past 48. But this time I still felt like crap. Yes I had energy but it was like I was revving on amphetamine it was horrible. The doctors and psychologist seem to agree it's bipolar 2 but I don't want to see a psychiatrist to get treated and I certainly don't want to become a pill popping emotional zombie. Even so my life is just so irreparable there really is no point. I'm just too gutless to kill myself.
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Cameron Bortle (2 months ago)
I feel as if depression, through my experience, is almost being in constant fear... almost as if your own shadow mocks you, harasses you, scolds you, and wants you dead
Mr White (2 months ago)
Try feeling that way without all the good things you have going for you.
cg0825 (2 months ago)
Kevin, that was amazing. I've been there and still have rough days but so many don't get it and ask me what I have to be depressed about or anxious about. Worse they tell me to just get over it or it isn't a real illness. I told my story at a camp I volunteered at in front of about 35 teens and the staff. Needless to say I was very nervous but knew I needed to do it that even if one person sitting there that day would be able to take something out of my story then I would have done my job. After I spoke I got a lot of feedback like "wow you experienced all that" or "I had a family member who died by suicide" or "I may be strugling with the same thing" (or their friend or classmate). Breaking down barriers to treatment and the stigma against mental illnesses is HUGE. I almost got let go from a job because of it. I was working and I had to submit a health form because I was living on site. Anyway, I had flu-like symptoms one day so they pulled my health form and took me to the doctor and saw depression on there. They wanted to let me go because they feared that parents would complain that "someone like me" was caring for and teaching their kids". But if I had a broken arm it would be a different story. They apparently thought I would turn violent and I had never harmed anyone in my life so why should this be any different? I was so upset that I booked a double session with my therapist and spent almost the whole 90 minutes talking nonstop about this issue. Sadly this was a center whose entire purpose was to embrace diversity yet things like mental health were openly discriminated against. We have a long way to go
T V (3 months ago)
Thank you for the empty platitudes.
Logan Hudson (3 months ago)
When you try to be the person you want, but never get there. When you work so hard and do so many things to help yourself, but only lose to someone who didn't even try. When your dreams collapse and you fall with them. Thats how I got here. Thats how my life crumbled. Trying so hard only to fail. Sick of trying, sick of lying, sick of crying, and ready to be dying.
Lost Survivor (2 months ago)
Life will get better but it takes time. Never give up and keep going. Everyday is a new opportunity for change. Stay strong.
Olivia D. (3 months ago)
"I feared myself"
LordThomske (3 months ago)
The problem ain't the depression, but the problem is the moment you are actually ready to speak up, and talk about it with someone close to you. That moment... When that one person, just doesn't listen to your story, but just wants to solve it. Solving a question that hasn't been asked is impossible, because you don't know the question. That's the same for depression... The depression can't be healed when it's not known what needs to be healed...
JC (3 months ago)
The shocking thing to me is people who adapt to the blind and aimless struggle for existence.
Geoffrey Schuchardt (3 months ago)
Thank you Kevin, I don't know if you get back to reading these but if you do from the bottom of my heart, thank you
Pårk Jïhøon (3 months ago)
They say your fine well I'm not I try not to lose it but when I do they say did someone say something? I say no. They say oh it will be over soon. I ask how do you know what I feel and I don't feel? My mom asked why did you cry at school? I said I lost something. She yells thats why? Are you that dumb to cry over that? I felt upset. I felt useless. But my teachers say everyone gose threw depression. I think yeah but for different reasons. I am still depressed.
Pårk Jïhøon (3 months ago)
I agree to everything you said. I felt this at a really young age. I'm only 14 and I always think about giving up and end it. I get every day and got so use to it and wanted to cry more. My friend is also depressed too.
haren nayak (3 months ago)
Thankyou is all I can type right now, so Thankyou for this video
Dilki (3 months ago)
The best speech that spoke myself
Dark Lord (3 months ago)
For all of you struggling. Remember that there’s always someone there, you have to see them though. Instead of focusing your thoughts and energy inwards, put it outwards. Help others and touch with people near you. That person will help you, it may seem like there’s no one there but this person is there. It could be a friend, a teacher, a parent, a sibling. I was going to take my life when a teacher I hadn’t even known well, who didn’t know me, I had him as a teacher. Something about the way he talked, how he urged us to fight through our struggles. Said he was there for us. Thank you Scott Peters, you don’t know it but you saved my life
Toe Knee (3 months ago)
depression is real I had jus suffer from it the meds jus make me feel more depressed. this video really help knowing you can relate thanks for being strong and speaking out
Dayna W (3 months ago)
Bravo! I can relate to this 1000% percent. It was always my normal and as a high achiever with a good family I never thought that being suicidal made me sick- it was just my normal. It took me 10 years to realize I was sick and another 2 to decide to take proper medication to help my brain. So far, ok but he's right- you can think about it everyday and the thoughts can come back.
Destiny Bryant (3 months ago)
Wow.
White Wolf (3 months ago)
I don't want to be the cheerful one now, because this is a genuine struggle, but, can someone put this on Wattpad?
White Wolf (3 months ago)
"Real depression is when you're sad when everything in your life is going right."
Swetha Murugavel (3 months ago)
Man this was an amazing speech. One of the best speeches from that I have ever heard in my life.
Yuun Xiaoming (4 months ago)
I been thinking about suicide for 2 years and still am
Funky Dogg (4 months ago)
8:29
Mihajlo Kostic (4 months ago)
This dude is a legend
Emmiasky Ojex (4 months ago)
If you're dealing with depression and are pressured by thoughts to end it all, please watch this share with friends. https://youtu.be/vZYl5S2HSd8
Spero Skoufis (4 months ago)
This man totally suffers from depression. Judging from his story we seriously relate. At least I am hot and have depression.
Rish hayday (4 months ago)
Wow😕
Evert Björklund (4 months ago)
Hi i have anxyety all The Time is luvox/fluoxamin god for that?
Devin Wade (4 months ago)
Who struggles with depression? https://youtu.be/76VU6cGevNU
Linda Ehlert (4 months ago)
Depression is 'quiet desperation' that feels 'hopelessness' in a real way. Loneliness and emptiness is a big part of it. Numb to goodness and beauty, the heart is no longer 'thankful'. It truly is a trap of 'stinking thinking'. Love is needed... true love.
needed to hear
Tiffany Wong (4 months ago)
I understand the pain and struggles that people go through with mental health disorders. Anxiety depression is a nightmare to live with. Today I’m better, but I still worry because it’s within me. I wish people understand us and have some compassion.
Adam Rector (4 months ago)
I suffer from depression
Dina Mohamed (4 months ago)
I come back to this video every time someone makes me feel bad about myself cause I can't "feel better" fast enough for their liking, and for the first time this video just made me cry, I can't believe how real every word he's saying is!
Bob McCallan (4 months ago)
You inspire me.
JImmy (5 months ago)
Depression is extremely real. People judge me because of how my face looks. People judge me the way I walk. People judge me for what I wear. People are the main cause for depression, because the only real thing people are good at is judging others. I try my best to live my life because that's all that I have left. People will never learn to stop judging others, and because people are always judging others, that's all they have in life. Without judging there will be no gossip for them, and gossip is what makes them for who they actually are. I can't walk down my own road without these people talking about me while I walk past them. Or if these people are across the road from me. Gossip is their life, i know all this because I can hear what they are talking about. And I hate it too much. But I have to live with it. This is what life is, we have to put up with it. We have to be strong, we can't let people break us because of what they think of us. We just have to ignore people because it is the only solution.
Claire (5 months ago)
No. There is no "real" depression. There is no "fake" depression. See... depression comes in many different ways. Someone may be able to get out of bed. That doesn't change the fact that they are depressed. This is called high functioning depression. This is just one category holding millions of definitions. Just because the person giving this ted x talk has depression, doesn't mean that he can speak for everyone else who does. Depression comes in many different shapes and sizes, like a virus that constantly changes. So no, there is no "real" depression, because there is no one definition for it.
Yubel Martinez (5 months ago)
This is my favorite TED talk
henlo mr. youu (5 months ago)
All the "the worst part" comments. What's worst of depression is very relative, for some it may be feeling invisible, while for others it may just simply be being forced to live. For me myself it was the fact that I couldn't remember how it felt to have emotions.
Evil Genius97 (5 months ago)
I love hearing "How can you be depressed?" When everyones different. Ive got a Nihilist veiw that seems true.
Felix Bruyns (5 months ago)
I have been depressed and even suicidal more times than I can count. I am alive today because of Jesus Christ. Our society is full of people who try to chase away despair by drink, drugs and even worse vices, vices that only lead to deeper despair. We, as a society, will go anywhere but church and say anything but a sincere prayer. If we want to alleviate the epidemic of depression, we must turn to God, and that means suspending disbelief and obeying God's Law even when we do not understand why we are doing it. The other lie society tells us, apart from hedonism, is that being inquisitive on matters beyond our understanding is a sign of intelligence and courage. It is not. We will not, in this life, answer ultimate questions. Pride in our own intellects prevents us (and I speak from personal experiences) from submitting ourselves utterly to an authority greater than ourselves. We are offered the false medicine of sinful pleasures and distractions, but the real cure is placed beyond reach by unwillingness to take anything on faith. We trust in other people without "reason" for doing so. Why not in God? I'll tell you a secret: The devil is the source of all depression. The devil is real. I've met him. He delights in human despair, in human self-destruction, as his most effective tool for draining of life and energy those who could have done good. It is he who tells us (A) To seek pleasure, (B) When that fails, to blame God, (C) To question God's existence and (D) When due to A through C, nothing makes sense anymore, to despair. The solutions are (1) Renounce all vice, (2) Pray to God, even if you're not sure He's there, (3) Find, as a result, signs of God's presence in your life and (4) See God's design, meaning and purpose with clear eyes.
henlo mr. youu (5 months ago)
Man made god, and you choose to believe in it. God didn't save you, mankind did.
miss Isra (6 months ago)
Each time i watch it i cry , thank youu so much ❤

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