On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive. Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, shows the manners and "hotspots" used by those trained to recognize deception -- and she argues honesty is a value worth preserving.
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Body language varies, culture to culture... Also this doesn't address people with autism and other social 'disorders', where body language is different for various reasons. There are many high functioning autistics in society... Sometimes they don't even know it... Their body language would indicate they are lying a lot... Whereas they are more likely to tell the truth than others.
This makes a lot of US-Centric cultural assumptions.
Lie less to yourself, be honest with yourself and be honest to the people in the situations that involve them where they are at least partly responsible for the outcome. I'm not saying dont lie, but I am saying that lies are never cut nor dry UNLESS you cultivate a life where it can work to make people happier. People will always be manipulating eachother, but that does not mean we must be malicious in doing so, love is love. If you can and do love and have an overall moral compass then you are ok, but some people dont, lying is always a flirtation with the evil in fwllow humans, thats why lying will forever shift in our uses and opinions. Lying does have use, evil and moral, thats just a part of being human.
Imagine what would happen if this kind of quasi-science was admissible in a court of law. Using her own techniques, was she lying about being able to spot liars? She was speaking in a low tone of voice, making direct eye contact with the audience, and was using barriers (including cue cards) between herself and the audience. Hmm...
During my researches I could not find someone who have had experiences with a person who totally invent stories from the bottom. Anyone of you know a person like that? Please share your experience with me
Bill Clinton and Richard Nixon are not the same. Can you tell the difference? One defrauded the entire country, and masterminded a robbery of the Democratic party in order to become more powerful politically. The other lied about temptations of the flesh. Get the difference? hmmm
thing is, even experts vastly overstate their own ability to detect lies. as a general rule, humans suck at it. long term average across many, many studies? 51%. we're right just often enough to convince ourselves that we're better at it than we are.
Another TED Talk that gets it very wrong amongst some good information. I treat ignorant bigoted people with contempt, as I was treated with contempt for years for being angry about not receiving health care and necessaries of life I am entitled to as a disabled person in New Zealand.
The one fact that remains is that every one lie and as read true the comments i can see lot of people that are very defensive and that just make me ask my self why . There is always hidden meaning we some try very had to defend a point that discredit them directly or indirectly .I should know this I'm someone that also lie but I'm not afraid to admit to it. We all lie for some reason as she said sometime for no reason it just how we react to criticism. This is just how i see thing obviously everyone is entitled to their opinion
I'm not only a superb liar but I'm also an excellent manipulator. If you wear your emotions like a freaking jacket I will instantly know what buttons to press to piss you off sometimes without anyone else knowing. If you're fishing for lies all I have to do is irritate you with small comments, noises, gestures and misleading facial expressions until you're so pissed you can't focus. It's worked since I was 4. luckily I'm not a bigot like Nixon or a child killer like that schizo mother
I am so not good at hiding my facial expressions! It sucks. I'll be pissed or angry but I'll be trying to play it off and acting normal and people will know. Or if I'm disgusted or not interested in something haha. It kind of sucks
Excellent presentation. I didn’t agree with her placement of the Bible in the company of tabloid fake news sources though. Especially in the context of sharing facts, science and objective hard evidence, subtle subjective opinions were out of place and also unnecessary. But apart from that - WOW- what an informative excellent presentation.
not everyone could really spot a lie perfectly. this thing just giving idea that they can spot a liar but not necessarily correct. some people who has lack of empathy might be unable to show true emotion even when they tell the truth
If someone is looking for lies, they will find them no matter what people do, or how they act. Knowing someone is lying and proving it are two different things. It's funny how all these so called "experts" interview all these women that claim rape and sexual abuse against innocent men and they get away with it. So much for being experts. In many cases the only difference between the truth and a lie is what a person is willing to believe. I have been watching a liar for the past 19 minutes.
FYI re Henry Oberlander https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/business/1978/06/11/ring-of-clumsy-forgers-finally-ends-2-year-run/bbd7f20b-d13d-4cd6-901b-5d68eb6e62a7/?utm_term=.2eed63d16ed5 So ahem.... WAPO published this in 1978, but the speaker states this was not to found anywhere on google?! I did see several other possibly misleading (could they have lied?!) articles aligned to her contention, e.g. https://lminvestorsworldwide.wordpress.com/2015/04/23/we-all-abide-by-henrys-rule/ Where are the references supporting the statistical assertions made in this talk?.... Also, you should realize the authorities/law enforcement (legally) lie? As a general rule, you should retain legal representation (i.e. with all due respect, professional liars) when (truthfully!) interviewing with them.
You all are stupid if you seriously think you can spot a liar by examining them. You can't, I am one myself and its way too easy to evolve , and "upgrade" our way we lie. its too easy. It's like spotting a criminal via looking at people. It's only done one way and will always be: facts, investigation, thats it. You need to put together evrything they say and understand whats wrong, then confront the liar, at this point, that person wont have the choice but to tell the truth, ashamed.
As I watched this video, I found a letter from the love of my life saying: "I will always love you no matter what happens, you can count on me that I will keep my words and will keep you safe forever. I love you so much". It was written 10/10/2010, it has been 8 years now and it was the biggest truth that I kept believing everyday of my life. Why it takes so long for me to understand it was only a lie?Until she left me alone.
9:55 Saying you can't fake a genuine smile is absolutely untrue. I do it all the time as it smooths social interactions when people think you are genuinely enjoying their company, and I know others who can do it too and are similarly well liked. In fact I find it harder to do a 'fake smile' without using the eyes. Maybe some people can't fake a genuine-looking smile but some of us sure can. Don't rely on that to decide whether someone is being truthful!
Superior ability to spot a liar does not make one a superior judge of character. Pamela Meyer's shortsightedness is so disappointing in the following article: https://www.nydailynews.com/opinion/pamela-meyer-trump-art-article-1.2547796 | 1clickurls.com/BHYG60V
I feel a lot of the indicators of a liar, like looking away and pausing before answering, could be attributed to someone with social anxiety or ADHD using learned methods to respond in a more normal way.
Nietzsche once said... you claim to help people for the sake of justice... but in fact, you're just trying to get people's attention for the sake of gaining power and getting rich. A wrong motivation is way worse than a lie... how can you prove your motive is right? That's the real question when i watch things like this...